Hey my TRU Seekers,
Everybody has at least been through this situation once in their lifetime, loosing a friend. If you haven't something is obviously wrong with that picture.
Let me start by telling you how it all happened.
My friend (no names involved this time) was going through a tough time with bullying. She has been since 1st grade, but this year it really seemed to have hit her. They joked about her weight and how she's silly. I'm the same way as her (looks) and they don't harm me. Is it because I can easily twist their words with my music? Possibly... She's kind of the opposite of me. I'm a musical person, always out there and taking the risks and trying out for it all. Yes, she does take risks. But she's afraid of being rejected, such as for show choir. She didn't make it last year nor this year, it's hard to not make it. She tries to be musical, but she tries WAY more than feeling the music in my opinion... A tad bit nasally.
Anyway, they found her as a easy target I guess. She WAS such a strong person, and she still is. I always tried my best to help her and sometimes I'd even fight back with them and tell them to bud off. Which then I become a target, but you see I don't care so they easily walk away. I always told her to ignore them, it may seem hard but the more you do the less they'll harm you. She came to me for comfort, and I comforted her the best I could.
I was her body guard for the beginning of our middle school years. I know I can't always protect her, but I try.
This year bullying got to her about her weight. She stopped eating, my eyes can't tell much detail. But during lunch hour she'd always bring up that "I stopped eating!" or "I'm counting calories, dropping jean sizes" Blah! Honestly after she left the table we'd all mumble how we don't care! Good for her, but we don't care! NONE of us wanted to get into her drama! She wasn't very good at finding her timings on when to say things, she's an open-book, that's probably why.
One day she started talking about calories and the whole table rolled their eyes, and I had it. I did a wrong thing and lashed out on her, but I DON'T regret it. I meant what I said. After that weekend, I wrote her a letter. I told her "We need a break in our friendship, we're happy for you but we don't care about the calories!" I said more, but I don't have the letter since I gave it to her.
She wrote back saying "I'm happier this way, and I AM eating, I was so depressed before, if you want a break alright."
It broke my heart... She was happier before all this crap..
She started being this way once she met this new girl, I'll call her #1.
#1 stopped eating, that's when S (my friend) also did. She became her new number one best friend. I knew I was going to loose S. S started wearing make-up just like #1. Foundation, eye-liner. Nothing wrong with that, but I knew her attitude would change and it did. She became a stupid girl, thinking she's cool. SHE ISN'T BEING HERSELF! And it kills me!!!! She doesn't realize it at all.
After a month of not at all talking to each other, maybe saying hi but that's it. I knew our friendship was over. It tears me.... but it was her choice and mine as well of course. She simply changed (attitude and physically) and I couldn't keep up. She wasn't the same best friend I had 4 months ago.. Weird how people change so quickly.
It makes me sad, but one day I'll get over it.. And maybe one day we'll be friends again. As time goes by, we'll see.
Have you guys ever lost a long friendship over a simple thing? Comment down below.
Be You, Stay True, Don't Change For Others...-Teri♥
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